31.1.6. > 13 birthday reading for next year

[Matmoz]

Hello all you wise and kind people
I have been looking and lurking in this forum for years, but finally i took the decision to actually reach out ) because i am not sure if i get this reading right ..or if i am to optimistic

I asked : what is the next year gong to offer me ?

Background
I am a 46 years old woman and single mother, currently unimployed creative, just got out of a very hard and toxic relationship that lasted 1.5 year and i started seiing an old flame again who is his total opposite, he is very curious and funny and sweet. And i hope very much that this will give me some happiness and selfesteem back ..because that other relationship really messed with my mind and left me totally confused about my self worth and ability to be loving. I have grown very scared of being vulnerable and honest.

I see this reading with this hope to be able to feel whole again .. Yi is advicing me to follow my heart and go for what i am attracted to, and be with the people who makes me feel at home in my self. Kind people. To get a bit more out of my scaredness and comfortzone and actually act on my needs.
Line 1); cozy times and toe cuddeling
Line 6); something about being honest and talkative instead of being scared and silent

A more pessimistic voice in me(but i dont think that Yi is that deterministic and carve the future in stone) says that i wilm have more of the same
Line 1); nothing happening
Line 6); just hollow talk and no real action
This was pretty much how my last relationship was .

I hope that some of you can help me disentangle these voices in me to a more clear and straight understanding

Thanks in advance

 

[Matmoz]

Also ..last week i asked how to get the best out of the new situation, without getting hurt (very very scared ) and received also : 31.5.6

 

[Trojina]

With lines one and six changing the whole hexagram has been gone through and coming through to centre stage is the relating, here 13.

I'd see this as saying you are moving into a more open time, a less emotionally claustrophobic or intense time in 31 into much more getting back into the human race in 13. This could be refreshing so whether it's neighbours, new acquaintances, things that get you involved in community, all these things expand your world where previous emotional stuff contracted your world into thoughts of that breakup or that person. Now it's people not person

A more pessimistic voice in me(but i dont think that Yi is that deterministic and carve the future in stone) says that i wilm have more of the same
Line 1); nothing happening
Line 6); just hollow talk and no real action
This was pretty much how my last relationship was .

I'm not inclined to hang too much on the lines here because I see them as secondary to the overall picture although of course they must still carry significance. If you went through the whole of 31 then you've been through all the claustrophobia that can happen when you really need someone and they aren't there, you're through that IMO and heading into 13. That's like walking out of a small room where you and the other have just been bouncing off each other into the open air where there's lots of people and you can breath.

Whilst one might still feel alone among wider humanity, (as opposed to close 1 to 1 focus) there's also comfort and safety in it when you find what a rich resource the community you are in is for you.

Oh I just saw this

i started seiing an old flame again who is his total opposite, he is very curious and funny and sweet. And i hope very much that this will give me some happiness and selfesteem back

...I saw you had ended a relationship and missed you started a new one.

There is no particular bad auspice for the new one and it was a general reading but it looks to me like a dose of the outer world, more engagement with many people on all kinds of levels at this time is better for you than pinning it all on one person?

There are many others who can contribute to self esteem apart from a significant other. It also might be if you go out together and so on that enlarges your world.

There's downside to 31, if you look you can see all the lines are about being too influenced, the pain of the push and pull, it's not all hearts and roses at all. It appears to me you experienced all that already and need some emotional air, space and variety. It might be fun to be in groups this year.

 

[Matmoz]

With lines one and six changing the whole hexagram has been gone through and coming through to centre stage is the relating, here 13.

I'd see this as saying you are moving into a more open time, a less emotionally claustrophobic or intense time in 31 into much more getting back into the human race in 13. This could be refreshing so whether it's neighbours, new acquaintances, things that get you involved in community, all these things expand your world where previous emotional stuff contracted your world into thoughts of that breakup or that person. Now it's people not person



I'm not inclined to hang too much on the lines here because I see them as secondary to the overall picture although of course they must still carry significance. If you went through the whole of 31 then you've been through all the claustrophobia that can happen when you really need someone and they aren't there, you're through that IMO and heading into 13. That's like walking out of a small room where you and the other have just been bouncing off each other into the open air where there's lots of people and you can breath.

Whilst one might still feel alone among wider humanity, (as opposed to close 1 to 1 focus) there's also comfort and safety in it when you find what a rich resource the community you are in is for you.

Oh I just saw this


...I saw you had ended a relationship and missed you started a new one.

There is no particular bad auspice for the new one and it was a general reading but it looks to me like a dose of the outer world, more engagement with many people on all kinds of levels at this time is better for you than pinning it all on one person?

There are many others who can contribute to self esteem apart from a significant other. It also might be if you go out together and so on that enlarges your world.

There's downside to 31, if you look you can see all the lines are about being too influenced, the pain of the push and pull, it's not all hearts and roses at all. It appears to me you experienced all that already and need some emotional air, space and variety. It might be fun to be in groups this year.

Dear Trojina

Thank you for your time, positive outlook and very fine interpretation)
It is a spot on, what i need now ~ more fun, fresh air and emotional freedom from all that abstract "trying to figure someone out" and just being with people who is doing something nice together, just because they like to do that . Thanks for reminding me that i dont want to go back to that 1:1 fokus. The world is big and beautiful and i can be a big and beautiful part of it !
1 persons opinion about you is just theirs, in one context ..not necessarily true for others.

I find it very interesting that you read it like this, that the lines kind of trandcends, into a past frame for a movement towards a new situation or fokus, and not as warnings or advice to be followed.. that is a more organic approach ~ i like it. I tend to take a lot of responsibility and think a lot about what i am doing wrong and what i need to change to achieve that is best. But as i get it, the worst is over and i can leave free, by just changing focus and find safety and love in the big family )
Then it won't be so important whether a special someone is staying or leaving or listening.
I really dont know if i have a new relationship yet ..it is just some long missed and uncomplicated interactions under naked circumstances with lots of long missed laughter .. And that is not really that dangerous as i make it ~ if i just remove the fear of all that enmeshment and guilt from the previous one~ and maybe look out together instead of at each other for wrongness )

Do you see any other guidance, as to how i best find new groups to be a part of/ relate to, or should i do another reading asking this specific question ?

 

[Trojina]

I find it very interesting that you read it like this, that the lines kind of trandcends, into a past frame for a movement towards a new situation or fokus, and not as warnings or advice to be followed.. that is a more organic approach ~ i like it.

The advice in the lines does matter but for me I also consider change patterns

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....and I just noticed with lines 1 and 6 in particular it's helpful to see the whole picture not just focus on the lines since with lines 1 and 6 changing the yang pattern is 28 and the yin 27 so there's a sort of toppling over of one situation into another place of nourishment.

But as i get it, the worst is over and i can leave free, by just changing focus and find safety and love in the big family )

It's as if you have been through 31 in it's entirety and are moving to a different landscape as it were. 31.1 is about moving one extremity, the toes and 31.6 the other, the mouth. If you look at the lines of 31 you can see the parts of the body mentioned ascend in order. Line 1 toes, line 2 calves, like 3 groins, line 4 heart, line 5 neck and line 6 mouth....or roughly thereabouts....In your reading you have the beginning and end of 31 like a loop through which 13 comes forward.

This is quite an impressionistic interpretation of mine here, there can be other ways to see the readings but it's what jumps out at me. In the middle lines of 31 there's strong feelings and dependency but at the beginning and end of it there's less strong motivation in line 1 and words and words and not much else in line 6...you're outside of the 31 time in a sense, you've 'fed' on it and sucked out the middle so to speak so there's just the skin left and there's space for a new source which here is 13.

Do you see any other guidance, as to how i best find new groups to be a part of/ relate to, or should i do another reading asking this specific question ?

I see 13 as wider society that carries us along. So I don't think there is in the reading a very literal instruction to 'go and join groups' more like the focus of the coming year is finding nourishment and support through that wider society which can include joining groups but isn't necessarily limited to that. 13 is people, sometimes called 'people in harmony' and there is also the idea very different types of people make a society or community. Even in harmony or unison of intent there will be differences among groups of people. I get the impression it's time for you to be immersed in all that, anything that takes you where people are. This can be healing after intense one to one interpersonal stuff. I'm sure you have noticed this on a small day to day level. If there is something going on or obsessing one in a close relationship just going to the shops can take one out of all that and notice 'ah there is a world out there that isn't about whether he is calling me or not' and so on. Or maybe you had a horrible row with someone close and then a stranger is nice to you...again that kind of thing, humanity at large, can lift you out of the narrowness of that person's perception of you that they are feeding back to you.

 

[Matmoz]

Dear Trojina
Im very honered that you take time to respond, and explain these change patterns and dynamics so i easily understands them ..i hope so at least .
I have been out and about in the spring that has just arrived fully here in Denmark in the last week ~ actually been rolling myself in people and being very nourished by it( 27) ..the last 8 months has been very cold and claustrophobic and even depressive.. it was about time to reach out .. (28)~ so that is why i havent had time to answer before
Also i see it as kind of the same thing, that i finally summed up the courage to ask for help on a Yi reading ..(i tend to think it s a bit embarrassing and that i need to sort out all my shit alone)..but i got it ! Thank you so much for that ))🫶

It seems that the year already is showing its colours, and the way seems more clear ~ )

 

[Matmoz]

Ps. I love your impressionistic interpretation..it makes sense and is very real and positive. Sometimes i get so lost and brainfogged from trying to figure it out. And then ..its actually quite simple . I guess the KISS rule really applies here !!