You must tone yourself down a bit. Get out your frustrations and sleep on the matter. If you find yourself lapsing into self-righteous indignation, you are headed in the wrong direction. Don’t perpetuate the argument or return the imagined insult. Don’t mail the nasty letter or jump to the hasty conclusion. The problem begins and ends with yourself.

If your responses to the situation seem aggressive and belligerent, you must cultivate detachment from the situation. You can’t be everywhere and everything for all people. Let’s face it-you are a strong person known for your particular world-view. At times others may make assumptions about you, not necessarily fair or positive, on the basis of what they understand to be your nature. Misunderstandings happen in the world; even about someone with your generous character. Let it pass. Walk away from the turmoil with detached calm. Probably you will experience natural peace after the initial storm of static. Go with it.

Above all, when dealing with opposites, cooperation is the key concept. You have much to learn and many possibilities yet to explore which pertain to this situation. Don’t sever yourself from your Tao. Go beyond your limitations, as you stop worrying about others’. If you could accept people for what they are, you would open more doors for your own understanding. Wait actively and patiently for this time of testing to unravel itself.

If you take yourself over to the I Ching Community and ask your question there, you’ll get some good quality help. Without knowing your situation or the whole of your reading, I’d just suggest you think about whether you would fit in there now. Can you accommodate your way of seeing the world to the school’s? And if there are differences, can you work round them by thinking smaller – going back part time, for instance?

can you help?

I liked your rendition – a thought to add? From my own life and wanderrings: For a community to stay healthy and refreshed it needs to send folk out into the wilds, or to other communities. These people are tasked to bring back what is needed. It could be a new technology for the company in which you work. Having said that, for me there is the ‘cast out’ theme in here too. When things become too ‘sick’ some people almost cast themselves out – and go seeking what is needed. Highly recomended on this is, “Puer Papers” James Hillman 1987. About the ‘Puer Aeturnus’ not an easy read but one of those books where the images clunk into place heavilly with deep thuds. A must read for those who 38. It both gives 38′ers a wonderful mythic image of themseves, whilst telling them the unhearable truth. No heros without folly I’m affraid.

The downside is – get it from the library or speak to your bank manager first – its out of print and at a premium

All the best
–Kevin

The Secret Sickness Pathways are those processes. One expression of the pairs mentioned in the article http://www.greatvessel.com/DesktopDefault.aspx?tabid=553&tabindex=1&DocumentID=2145

Maybe someone could get SK to expand on them

Hope this helps a little.

Glad you liked the site – thanks –Kevin